Learn to say yes or no
2021-01-13Matthew 5:37 NLT
Good negotiators understand that talking too much can be a sign of insecurity and weakness. Sometimes the strongest word is a simple yes or no, without going into more explanation or detail. Most decisions eventually come to that point anyway. But in order to do that, we must be able to answer these three questions:
1) Can I make this decision myself? We need to think about if there’s anyone else we need to talk to before making a decision. And whether there is or not, we should always talk to God first. ‘If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking’ (James 1:5 NLT). Once we’ve gained God’s perspective, and we’re the final decision-maker, we shouldn’t hesitate or waver – just make the decision.
2) What will happen if I put off making this decision? In most cases, things will either get better or worse for someone involved. We need to weigh our decisions carefully, thinking about who could be affected and how, and then decide. At this point, we should stand on the Scripture: ‘Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths’ (Proverbs 3:5-6 NKJV).
3) Does every decision have a moral and spiritual dimension? When we compromise our beliefs or character to gain popularity or profit, we end up morally and spiritually bankrupt. We need to hold on to your values, base our decisions on them, and remember this Scripture: ‘The LORD approves of those who are good, but he condemns those who plan wickedness’ (Proverbs 12:2 NLT).